Life Lessons: How to Stand up to Bullying with Books

By Reading Rockets
A millennial father and his boy lay on a rug on the living room floor, reading a book together. A good teaching opportunity as the child is learning to read. The dad smiles as he reads, the son looking on attentively.

When bullying occurs, it’s up to us to teach our kids how to respond and children’s books can help us with these important life lessons.

Bullying is a growing problem, affecting our schools and our communities. Increasingly, it is happening online, expanding the number of kids who get bullied and bully others.

The internet can provide a shield for bullies to hide behind, but it certainly does not protect the targets of bullying. The child who is being bullied feels the emotional or physical sting sharply and can feel powerless; classmates and online “friends” who witness the bullying often don’t know what to do; and the child doing the bullying is struggling, too, with anger issues and more.

The Powerful Bookshelf

Books can help kids process bullying as reading books allows children to see the world from different perspectives and build empathy. Children who can empathize respond to others with thoughtfulness and understanding. Why is my classmate wearing a headscarf indoors? A beautiful picture book about choosing a new hijab for the first day of school can open windows.

Through stories, children can meet characters who are dealing with strong emotions and who learn to manage those feelings in positive ways. What a powerful model for kids, especially when they’ve formed a personal bond with the vividly drawn characters.

Some children’s books tackle the tricky topics related to bullying, like how to handle conflicts at school or in the neighborhood. Sometimes it’s as simple as inviting the shy new kid to join in and play. Sometimes it’s about learning to find your own individual voice. And sometimes it’s about leaning on an understanding adult to help your classmates see your true strengths.

The messages in these stories can be subtle, yet powerful. They give kids a chance to reflect, think about their own beliefs and social interactions, and talk with their classmates and family about thorny issues.

How can schools and families work together to stop bullying?

It starts with creating a school culture that embraces and celebrates diversity and differences, has zero tolerance for bullying behavior, embeds social and emotional learning (SEL) opportunities in classrooms and school events, and provides guidance for teachers on responding to bullying in a direct, effective and loving way­—supporting the child being bullied, the bystanders and the child who is bullying.

There are excellent online guides and toolkits for schools to use, including Eyes on Bullying Toolkit.

Social and Emotional Learning Reading List

Here are some of the books we recommend for strengthening social and emotional learning. Some of the books deal with bullying head-on.

Building Empathy, Perspective-Taking, Respecting Others, Fitting In

Ages 3-7

Ages 6-9

Building Awareness of Emotions, Self-Control

Ages 3-7

Ages 6-9

Practicing Conflict Resolution Strategies

Ages 3-7

Ages 6-9

Ages 8-10

Books About Empathy, Perspective-Taking, Emotions and Conflict Resolution for Older Kids

Ages 9-12

Reading Rockets is an online source for information about teaching young children to read and helping those who struggle.

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